I’m Anthony Lexa, though you might know me as Abbi from the Netflix show Sex Education. I’m a transgender actress and singer-songwriter from Devon. I have chronic eczema and ichthyosis vulgaris which has evolved into a condition called Topical Steroid Withdrawal, or ‘Red Skin Syndrome’. It’s a developed dependence on topical steroid treatments and is more common than most people realise. Symptoms include redness, flaking, and oozing of the skin, hair loss, facial swelling and insomnia. Alongside these physical challenges, there’s been a profound disruption to my reflection in the mirror, which has deeply affected my sense of self. Living with this condition can be debilitating, and earlier this year I was forced to move back in with my parents as a result of the severity of my symptoms.
Battling both visible scars and the constant reality of gender dysphoria is a challenge that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. But as I push through, I find strength I never knew I had and have learnt to find beauty in the smallest things, such as a pretty hair bow, or a new flower in my rose bush.
Changing Faces has been a lifeline for me. Their counselling support has helped me navigate the emotional and social challenges that come with my condition. It’s given me the strength to face the world with pride, even when I wasn’t sure if I could.
Music has also been a huge boost. My new single, ‘Terrified’, celebrates the positive sides of healing and self-care and one line from the song particularly stands out: Beauty isn’t skin deep. It resonated so strongly with me that I decided to launch some t-shirts and hoodies with this tagline, to raise money as a way of thanks to Changing Faces and giving back to a community that’s given me so much. I’d also like it to inspire others to find beauty in their own stories, no matter what their skin or visible differences look like.